Who Pays For The Wedding?

The bride and/or her family members have traditionally assumed the majority of the wedding costs, but weddings have changed considerably over time. Consequently, the modern wedding planning approach allows for more of a division between the couple and/or both sets of parents.  The final decision of who pays for what usually depends on family preference, as well as the wedding budget for the big day.


The following check list includes some of the more traditional guidelines which you can adopt or modify to suit your unique wedding ceremony and reception. Although the list is flexible, it may assist in your planning and preparations for your wedding day.  In addition, there are other items which are more non-traditional you might want to add to your wedding experience.   For instance, an engagement party or photo booth may fun additions but are not a hard and fast rule.



Invitations, personal notes and mailing expense.

Reception costs.

Ceremony costs.

Photographic and videographic expense.

The groom’s wedding ring.


Attendants’ bouquets.

Transportation for the bridal party.

Wedding dress, headpiece and accessories.


Wedding planner’s fee.

Groom’s gift.

Guest Book.

Accommodations for out-of-town bride’s attendants and guests.


Groom’s wedding attire.

Rehearsal dinner.

Marriage license.

Bride’s rings.


Wedding gifts for the bride, best man, groomsmen and ushers.

Flowers for the bride’s bouquet, corsages for the mothers and grandmothers.

Alcohol at reception.

Accommodations for out-of-town groomsmen, ushers and guests.


Wedding gift for the bride and groom.

Bachelor party and/or bachelorette party.

Travel costs.

[Note: The wedding party usually pays for their attire. If not, the bride will assume the expense of her attendants and the groom pays for his.]

Although these guidelines can help you decide  who pays for what at the wedding, the real answer involves a discussion between the couple and their families.  As they say, traditions are made to be broken.  Above all, the celebration should reflect the happiness of two becoming one and the love they share.


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